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Valentine’s Day immerses us in conversations about love. Its origins trace back to ancient Roman festivals like Lupercalia, a mid-February celebration that honoured fertility and marked the transition to spring.
Over time, Lupercalia was adapted into a Christian feast day dedicated to St. Valentine, a martyred priest known for performing secret marriages during Roman persecution. Officially recognized in 496 AD by Pope Gelasius I, it evolved over centuries into a celebration of romance, particularly during the Middle Ages when poets like Geoffrey Chaucer linked it to expressions of love—how to express it, nurture it, and, for some, how to repair it.
While the focus is often on romantic relationships, the principles that sustain strong, healthy partnerships are just as essential in our workplaces, friendships, and communities. Love, at its core, is about connection, and connection thrives when people feel seen, heard, and valued. In my work as a conflict and communication specialist, I see firsthand how relationships—both personal and professional—succeed or suffer based on the quality of communication.
 Love languages are the secret to strong workplace teams. |
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One of the most common issues in both romantic and workplace relationships is assuming we already know what the other person wants or needs. Assumptions are rarely accurate. Whether with a spouse, a friend, or a colleague, we often give the type of love, appreciation, or feedback we would like to receive rather than what the other person actually values.
The concept of “love languages” (coined by Dr. Gary Chapman, a marriage counsellor and author of “The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts”) extends beautifully to all areas of life. People need appreciation in different ways—some through words of affirmation, others through quality time, acts of service, gifts, or even a simple pat on the back. Understanding these differences can transform how we relate to one another.
We may not call it “love,” but feeling valued is essential in professional settings. Leaders who struggle to retain talent or build cohesive teams often overlook the power of appreciation. Employees who feel unseen or unrecognized quickly disengage. A thoughtful thank-you or acknowledgment of effort can have as much impact in the boardroom as it does at the dinner table.
As you reflect on your personal relationships during the coming week, think about your professional ones. Are you making those around you feel valued? Do you acknowledge contributions in a way that resonates with the individual?
Valentine’s Day isn’t just for grand gestures—it’s also a moment for reflection. Have you been neglecting a relationship that matters to you? Whether it’s a spouse, a friend, or a co-worker, it’s never too late to rebuild trust and connection.
Here’s a simple exercise: Write down three things you appreciate about someone in your life and tell them. It might initially feel awkward, but it will mean more to them than you realize.
This Valentine’s Day, let’s expand our idea of love beyond chocolates and roses. Real love is about making people feel valued, respected, and understood—at home, at work, and in our communities. That is the kind of connection that truly lasts.
Faith Wood is a professional speaker, author, and certified professional behaviour analyst. Before her career in speaking and writing, she served in law enforcement, which gave her a unique perspective on human behaviour and motivations. Faith is also known for her work as a novelist, with a focus on thrillers and suspense. Her background in law enforcement and understanding of human behaviour often play a significant role in her writing.
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