There is nothing scarier than our own imagination

Take your mind off automatic pilot and get it to work for you rather than against you

There is nothing scarier than our own imaginationWhen left to our own devices, we humans have the capacity to create 'worst case scenarios' that play around in our heads unchecked and often without boundaries. When this happens, it paralyzes us and prevents us from speaking up when someone hurts our feelings, springing into action on an exciting opportunity or doing what needs…

Strategies for coping with the devastating loss of a friend

When someone dies, the loss is often more widespread than we recognize, and the tragedy and permanence of death shocks and scares us

Strategies for coping with the devastating loss of a friendI once found out (on Facebook of all places) that a dear friend had passed away suddenly. I was in shock. Had it been April Fool’s Day, I might have believed it was someone’s inappropriate joke. But it wasn’t. I didn’t know what to say or what to feel. I was numb. One of my…

How to portray confidence in an interview

Focus on your characteristics and skills, allowing other people to determine for themselves which skills are useful for the job and which aren’t

How to portray confidence in an interviewWe detect the confidence of others automatically, whether we think we’re perceptive or not. Confidence is conveyed in words, posture, voice tone and gestures. Whenever we communicate with others, our minds are watching for mismatches – alerting us to a person's lack of sincerity. This can spell disaster when we're interviewing for a new job or…

Talk is not cheap, but it can save your marriage

Resentment over wrongs, disagreements over the kids and financial worries can be breeding grounds for some of the worst adult behaviour

Talk is not cheap, but it can save your marriageThey loved each other so much. Everyone thought they were a perfect couple. Of all the couples in their circle, they definitely had the advantage, communicating so well with each other. That’s what we all thought – until they got divorced! When that perfect couple is at an impasse, why start fighting like children? Communication…

You don’t have to like someone to be polite

Don't waste your energy on something that is not worth wasting your energy on

You don’t have to like someone to be politeYou don’t have to love them, but life is so much easier when you are polite to people, regardless of how they behave toward you. Have you ever had to deal with offensive customers, or colleagues? It can be a real challenge to keep your cool when your inner voice is screaming, “You’re a jerk!…

Your guide to motivating the unmotivated

If you want to motivate people, setting a good example is a good place to start

Your guide to motivating the unmotivatedMotivating yourself can be difficult at times, but motivating other people offers a different kind of challenge. Short of standing behind them with a pitchfork and an evil grin, or offering them a gazillion dollars, what can you do to get the best from others, be they employees or colleagues or even family (although that’s…

Promises, promises on the road to Parliament

Body language cues are most accurate when a speaker is initially put on the spot. So ask candidates hard questions and watch closely

Promises, promises on the road to ParliamentWhat makes interpreting the sincerity of all those election promises so darn challenging? All the prep time a candidate has gets in the way. Interpreting the nuances of non-verbal communication requires us to detect fleeting cues and they’re more accurate when an individual hasn’t had the luxury of polishing up their rebuttal. Body language cues…

Are the PM’s apologies just an election ploy?

A body language expert looks at Trudeau's latest apologies and analyzes their sincerity

Are the PM’s apologies just an election ploy?Prime Minister Justin Trudeau seems to be paying attention to experts when they share what it takes to offer a sincere apology. I suppose he ought to – after all, he spent a term being that kind of leader: one who leans on apology to help boost his public image. I’m not saying this is…

Learn to take life’s ups and downs in stride

Focus on these three Cs — calm, collected and confident

Learn to take life’s ups and downs in strideToo often, we’re exposed to the energy-sucking power of worry. What a waste. But you can do something about it. When I was a young mom, I worried about making mistakes raising my children. I was so concerned about scarring them for life. It seemed that every article I read eluded to poor parenting as…

The secret to living a pressure-free life

How your state of mind can influence everything around you, and tips that will help you find and achieve the right balance

The secret to living a pressure-free lifeDecluttering your life and being at ease with yourself has more to do with your mind than your environment. Over the years, I've voraciously consumed articles and watched programs about creating a stress-free life through decluttering. For example, they say most of us wear only 20 per cent of our wardrobe – the rest we'll fit…
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